All we have to do is decide what to do with the time that is given to us.
I think it’s safe to say that most of us have nothing but time on our hands these days. This quarantine has had me reflecting on what makes me happy. What makes me feel successful. What gives me a sense of completion.
Success is not what you have but who you are.
I’ve never really been concerned about what other people’s definition of success is. However, I think it’s safe to say that most people think of success as making a lot of money, being a millionaire by a certain age, owning their own business and being their own boss — tangible, material items etc. A younger me probably would have agreed with all of the above but when you have time to REALLY reflect on happiness and success you begin to see a bigger picture.
Happiness is letting go of what you think your life is suppose to look like.
2019 was a year of extreme growth for me. I stepped out of my comfort zone and traveled to places I’ve never been and met strangers who just so happen to have the same love, interest and passion that I had. I traveled alone, and if you knew me way back when you’d know that’s not something I’d ever even dream of doing. Being able to do this multiple times last year felt like success for me, and maybe part of this journey WAS success but this was barely scratching the surface.
Whatever’s good for your soul…do that.
If there is one thing that time provides (especially a time like being quarantined) it’s the opportunity to reflect what makes you happy deep down in your soul. For me, having unconditional love is success. Being able to create and have a family of my own, having someone who is looking forward to me coming home, knowing that someone loves me enough to do little things to make me smile, celebrating holidays, making a house a home, having someone to take care of, who will also take care of me, carrying a baby for nine months, watching them grow, seeing my life partner interact with our child, comforting them when they have a bad dream, kissing their “owies”, there are a million things I could list here but the thought of them all warms my heart and makes me happier than anything else in this entire world.
Being both soft and strong is a combination that few have mastered.
I don’t want to make it sound like I will lose who I am as an individual once I have a family. My dreams, my aspirations, my career will still be there. However, I will know I’ve ultimately made it in life when I have my own happy, healthy family.